Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Well Done Camilla

In a non-Catholic school towards the end of the academic year for some reason at lunch time condoms were handed out to the pupils, a seventeen year old girl, Camila, whose parents are Polish, said, "No thank you, I am a Catholic", and refused them. She then explained why to her friends, who handed them back.
Well done Camila!

17 comments:

nickbris said...

If one or two of the students were under age then a crime has been committed.

Schools like all organisations these days are employing sub-standard staff.

Gigi said...

Good for Camilla. But I think this goes deeper than the obvious Catholic / non-Catholic issue. As ever in these enlightened days, some would say there are pros and cons involved with distributing condoms to teenage girls or boys. The pros would be prevention of sexually transmitted diseases, abandoned babies, abortion. The huge con is that the unnecessary sexualisation of children and young adults has instigated the need for such prevention.
One of my neighbours informed me that her eldest daughter has started having sex, at 14. She tells me this is "normal" these days; the "average" age apparently. I felt like crying quite honestly. At 14, two years before he died, I was a Daddy's girl; I was beginning to talk to him about politics and religion. I hoped that I would meet and marry a caring, spiritual man like Dad; when I eventually grew up. At 14, I still toyed with the idea of being either a nun or a ballerina -or both: liturgical dance anyone? The fact is, I was a little girl. I don't believe that physically, intellectually or emotionally my friends and I were way different to my neighbour's daughter.
Can it ever be right that a centre of learning is ditributing birth control to children?

georgem said...

Camilla is an impressive example of pro-Choice. The choice to say "no".

Crux Fidelis said...

I remember being horrified when a female colleague gaily informed us as soon her daughter was old enough she would "put her on the pill". A few years later this poor girl was a mother at the age of fifteen.

berenike said...

Crux - I read your comment and was cheered! Your colleague didn't force the girl into an abortion - this at least was praiseworthy!

Gigi said...

There's an article at Metro.Co.Uk simply titled "Girls under 12 having sex". It dates from 2009; if the title itself is'nt horrifying enough, it's full of upsetting statements and apparent facts. I was a 12 year old with stupidly long pigtails who climbed trees - I did once have to be rescued by firemen but believe me there was nothing erotic about it. My schoolfriends and I found the idea of kissing our contemporaries at the Boys' Catholic Academy embarrassing and unsettling. And that is surely what is, using my neighbour's terms, "normal" for an "average" pubescent girl. I read that underage pregnancy is a sign of the times, but our times are engineered by us as we live them. My friend is a warm, kind woman; but I do feel she has fallen short in ignoring / accepting / condoning the fact that her daughter is having sex a few hours after her biology homework assignment. Innocence can be a beautiful thing at any age, but in children it's essentially precious.

Anonymous said...

I have to say, I treasure these little signs of hope from our younger brothers and sisters. Thank you, Catholic young people, for encouraging us in the faith!

Jonathan West said...

I'm an annoying skeptic, and so I have my doubts as to whether this story actually ever happened as described. There's no other mention of it on the web except for one other blog with cites this page as the source.

So, were you told this story at first hand by Camila (or Camilla), or have you heard it passed along? Do you know which school the event occurred at?

I can see why you passed on the story - it's just the kind of story you would like to be true - you approve of the moral point that it makes. But there is a danger in making up, or passing on made-up stories and telling them as if they are true when they aren't.

Fr Ray Blake said...

Jonathan,
I rather like annoying skeptics, however I do find people who suggest I lie or make things up, more than objectional. This is the last time Jonathan!

I do know which school Camilla attends, I was told the story by the girl's parish priest, who had it from her and her parents.

Hastings Mysteries said...

Jonathan, I am the girl's mother. i need to remain anonymous to protect my child and her friends, but I can tell you a little more: the young people are regularly interrupted at lunchtime by middle-aged people distributing glow-in-the-dark condoms. When my daughter refused them, the middle-aged person said, 'Come on, everyone's doing it.' In addition, the middle-aged people offer the young students chlamydia tests in exchange for a free lunch. The boys take the little pots offered, get the free lunch and then pour Red Bull into the pots before handing them back. A healthy response.

Hastings Mysteries said...

Jonathan, I am the girl's mother. i need to remain anonymous to protect my child and her friends, but I can tell you a little more: the young people are regularly interrupted at lunchtime by middle-aged people distributing glow-in-the-dark condoms. When my daughter refused them, the middle-aged person said, 'Come on, everyone's doing it.' In addition, the middle-aged people offer the young students chlamydia tests in exchange for a free lunch. The boys take the little pots offered, get the free lunch and then pour Red Bull into the pots before handing them back. A healthy response.

Jonathan West said...

Hastings Mysteries

If that is what has happened, on school premises during school hours (including lunchtime) when the children are in the school's care, then this is cause for a serious complaint to the school authorities.

Behaviour like this on the part of adults towards the school pupils in their care is wholly inappropriate and could quite possibly be being used by one or more of the adults concerned to groom one or more of the children for sex. Depending on what exactly has happened, it may even be that a criminal offense has been committed - grooming is against the law. In any case, it has to be stopped before there is any chance for it to be taken any further.

I strongly recommend you make a complaint without delay.

If you would like help in writing the complaint, or in who to make the complaint to, then I would be happy to assist. You can email me via my Blogger profile, just click on my name above this comment. Any email you send me will be kept strictly confidential.

For the protection of your daughter and the other children at the school, it is vitally important that this matter is not allowed to rest.

Hastings Mysteries said...

It is not grooming in this case. It is official policy to send these ridiculous people (useful idiots perhaps, am not sure there)in to sixth form colleges to give out condoms and chlamydia tests. I think the euphemism to describe what is being promoted is 'sexual health'.
I do not need to complain. The young people are doing an excellent job themselves by laughing at these middle-aged 'sexual health' promoters as well as standing up for the truth. It took a child to observe that the emperor had no clothes.
If I were to complain, the young people would cease to confide in me.

Hastings Mysteries said...

Jonathan, as I understand it, parishes scrapped their own child protection policies years ago and each parish now has a safeguarding rep who makes sure that her or his parish adheres to the guidelines put out at diocesan level. The very helpful A and B diocese safeguarding resource pack is at
http://www.dabnet.org/Resources/DABNet/Safeguarding/Arundel%20and%20%20Brighton%20New%20Parish%20Pack%202009.pdf
Such resources are regularly updated in line with national changes. The National Catholic Safeguarding Commission, now chaired by the excellent Baroness Scotland, also has some helpful documents available at http://www.catholicsafeguarding.org.uk/documents.htm
Forgive me if I'm posting stuff you know already.
By the way, it was a wise bit of safeguarding to change my daughter's name on this blog. Her real name is neither Camila not Camilla.

God bless.

Fr Ray Blake said...

Mr West,
So do I, but I don't control the website, as much as might want to.

So therefore we fill the statuatory and diocesan norms

Hastings Mysteries said...

Sorry about my typo: her name is neither Camila nor Camilla!

Fr Ray Blake said...

Mr West, you accused me of lying earlier, enough is enough.

My telephone number is on the sidebar, if you wish to speak to me fine but no more of yours will be published here.